Help a sista out please...
My son is 18..and despite my maternal view of him..he is a man. A man who until Oct 5th is living with his mother..a mother who although loves him dearly has HIGH expectations of said son.
Now, I have to admit, being my only child he has been afforded things that some would characterize as "spoiling"..I'll accept that. But, he is a great young man. Responsible, works at Red Lobster, loves God, kind and generous..respects authority and has an infectious smile..now here lies the issue..the negro can be LAZY!
He hates cleaning his room and his bathroom..I am ready to put him and all his shit on the street..for real. Trying to maintain this mother/son relationship is becoming increasingly more difficult..no longer the little boy requiring, hell even insisting on my direction..now a man who no longer feels he needs my two cents.
How did you gentlemen handle the transition..the dance between mother and son..into adulthood...manhood? All wise counsel greatly appreciated..
the good nurse aka the bishops mama
Michael Fisher said...
Can a mother make a son a man?
No. She can't possibly.
To a woman being a man is a theoretical thing. She knows or thinks she knows what a man should DO, but doesn't know what being a man IS.
A boy needs to experience manhood in order to be a man. In vast sections of the black community that has not been the case in three generations of child "parents".
What we have now among black males as far as the eye can see is girls in men's bodies.