How significant is your investment in schooling your sons on how to present and conduct themselves interpersonally at all times?
Has the thought ever crossed their minds to sag their pants or otherwise imitate exemplars of oppositional culture?
Denmark Vesey said ...
School them ... present and conduct ... themselves interpersonally ...
Um.
Well. Not sure how to answer that. Never felt like I was "schooling" them.
How the boys handle themselves is a big deal around here. Whether they speak up. Whether they look people in the eye when they meet them. Their posture. The modulation of their voices. All of that has been as carefully cultivated as has their progress in math and reading.
But, it never felt like a school thing.
It always felt like a class thing.
For example:
If one of the boys stumbled over his conjugation of the verb to "be" .. it might be met with a chuckle and the question "What was that ghetto ass shit you just said son?".
or
If the jeans started to slip around the hips ... one might here "Time for dinner! Snack call your brothers Young Jeezy and Gucci Man. Tell 'em it's time to eat."
The whole family would laugh ... and the boys would quickly declare "I aint saggin!"
Or ...
If we are in the car and we pass some convict looking young brothers with tattoos on their necks and long ass short pants matched with garish sneakers .... one might here "Yo. DV Jr., you need to talk to your cousin on your mother's side, he's tripping!"
More laughs.
Or ...
If we are in the mall and some big ass sistas walk by ... 150 lbs. overweight ... wearing what looks like spandex lingerie mixed with denim ... one might here "See Snack. See what happens to people who eat Aunt Annie's pretzels all the time."
Yeah CNu.
It's not so much "schooling" on my end.
It's more a systematic program of Brain Washing.
Fighting Fire with Fire.
Mind control.
That's a parent's job.
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Too bad that so many of the parents are victims of the same kind of brainwashing ... only it is led by the dominant culture of now... Only in this time can making your child hold up a sign of their disobedience and posting the photo of the MILD transgression be viewed as "harsh" or unreasonable.
The definition of parenting has become so watered-down that it has become confused with "friend", and the authority conveyed has become compromised.
There is a lot of envy between the generations and the parents now want to have the same kind of life that their children lead... without rules and responsibility. So their behavior is not much better than, if at all, than their children. And the children, instead of viewing them as authority, see them as peers, and regard them as such.
Jus' sayin'... cause I don't know what I am talkin' about, but I do know what I am doing!
Additional questions:
To what extent do you consider Tracy Martin responsible for the untimely death of Trayvon Martin?
As your boys transition into adolescence and increasing personal autonomy - what risk exposures concern you the most?
Tracy Martin? The father?
To what extent was he responsible for his son's death?
You asking the wrong cat CNu.
You know me.
I consider Tracy Martin more responsible for his son's death than George Zimmerman.
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As my sons transition to personal autonomy?
Risks?
I teach them that what happens to them in life "is on them".
I teach them to operate like young lions, surrounded by hyenas.
If they slip up and get devoured by hyenas .... they can't blame the hyenas.
Hyenas do what Hyenas do.
Be prepared.
Don't slip.
What are your thoughts?
I'm with you 100% on all points.
Speaking of hyenas, the little boy had a rematch with his club number one yesterday - to make sure his win four weeks ago wasn't a fluke.
Dood is 14 years old, had my son down 3 games to 0 and started in on some mental tactics involving "yo mama" commentary.
When they changed sides, my son looked at me and said, "don't worry daddy, I'm not gonna let him get me".
After which he took the next 8 games in a row (8 game pro sets) - inclusive of hitting the other boy in the nuts with a volley.
Afterwards, he said "fine as mama is, I can't believe that cracka attempted a "yo mama" comment to try and rattle me" laughing, "he must've been really desperate - that's when I knew I had him."
Chapter and verse Nu-justsu. My son is now the undisputed and undefeated club number one.
My palms sweat watching the boy play tennis. My hat's off to you magne, cause I can't even imagine watching him box.
Nothing compares to the satisfaction of having your son exemplify what you've instilled in him. Fear, concern, doubts, are really kind of a projective self-doubt. A boy will execute his father's example and his father's instructions with a phenomenal degree of fidelity.
I think it's the faith they have in you. The funniest thing in the world is to hear some stuff you've professed, either repeated by your son to his cronies with full authority, or better still, brought back to you by your son with total conviction - as if he'd come up with it himself.
Anyway, looking forward to more anecdotes on the art and science of constructive mind control.
miss you all...been crazy busy...but, alas, i am back!
love and blessings.
tgn
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