
Denmark Vesey said...
There was a time when five year old girls wanted to grow up to be princesses. To marry brave, handsome, dashing princes. To have children and to live happily ever after.
Today attention starved little girls want to grow up to be 'hot'. To be stars. To be seen. To be idolized. To be on TV. To have money. To be loved by many. Today they want to grow up to be whores.
A systematic inCULTration process via mass media and pop culture replaced the wife and mother archetype as the feminine ideal with the narcissistic whore archetype as the feminine ideal.

Sex tapes are tickets to stardom. Reality TV shows serve to normalize the notion that personal lives should be put on public display. MTV will never depict a relationship between young adults that develops beyond the 'hook up'.
Marriage has yet to be depicted positively in any film targeting the young demographic.

Weak families make weak people. Weak people are easier to control.
The Doc said...

I just found out the other day that my mom adopted a young girl. I grew up with my grandma, I pretty much think of her as my mother so me and my mom didn't really talk much when I was coming up.
But now I gotta wrap my head around the idea that I have a sister now. It's cool tho, I always wanted a younger bro or sis. Somebody I could teach the game to, the way I always wished somebody could've taught me, instead'a learning the hard way.
And damn y'all, she's taken to me already. She's from New Orleans, not sure the situation with her mom, but I think it's got something to do with Katrina.
I hung out with her a few hours that first day but had an interview so I had to go and then she was like, "Are you coming back?? When you coming back? You betta come back!" And I called her later and we talked for hours.
This puts a helluva lotta pressure on me. I'm realizing now that in a lot of ways i'm gonna be her primary male role model, or at least one of them. Good pressure, though, this just the type of challenge I need. Doc don't choke under pressure. I'ma do my best to help teach her about being a lady, respecting herself, loving her blackness, etc.
She's already a teenager so I already know she's got some ideas that are cemented in and it'll be hell trying to fix that if it's something wrong, but I hope she's already been taught good things. I told her about my girlfriend and she was like, with that thick ass n'awlins accent where i can hardly understand her half the time, "Girlfriend, huh? Y'all better not be havin' premarital sex either." Had to laugh at that one. Umm... no comment. (don't get me wrong, chuuchh, jumpin' the broom's def. in the plans, just gotta get a few things in place first.) I couldn't have been more proud tho.
But living in the world long enough can take such wide-eyed optimism out of a kid so I gotta be there, not just show her she has to follow the path but some good reasons why.
Who knows, maybe when she's a bit older I might put her up on DV.net.