Fresh out the frying pan into the fire,I be the, music biz number 1 supplier
Flier than a piece or paper bearing my name,
Got the hottest bitch in the game wearing my chain, thats right HOV
Not D.O.C, but similar to the letters no-one can do it better
I check cheddar like a food inspector
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Female sexuality is a beautiful thing...when done in the right way it is the most powerful thing in the world...
It's empowering if you do it on your own terms (Beyonce) and exploitive when you don't (chicks on leashes with Snoop Dogg)
It's empowering if you do it on your own terms (Beyonce) and exploitive when you don't (chicks on leashes with Snoop Dogg
-Soteria
shouldn't that read:
It's empowering if you do it on your own terms (Beyonce) and exploitive when you don't (chicks on leashes)?
If Beyonce is responsible for Beyonce, why are the "chicks on leashes" not responsible for the "chicks on leashes"?
Selectively robbing women of responsibility for their own behavior is repressive.
Encourage, support, protect and provide, but ultimately if a woman locks a leash around her neck and walks out to be photographed - that's on her.
Teaching girls that will empower more women than attacking the Snoops.
DV
Encourage, support, protect and provide, but ultimately if a woman locks a leash around her neck and walks out to be photographed - that's on her.
If a young girl who becomes the age of a typical women has been conditioned to think during here upbringing that it's acceptable behavior then who is at fault. When you allow it to become the norm on every other video what do you expect! Yeah! Yeah! where are her parents? Everyone is not as fortunate as some of you may be (Thank God). When I was growing up the neighborhood taught the children in that neighborhood. Shoot I was called out more by Mrs. Watson then my own mom. Times are different thus we must alter the course. We! you and I need to take leadership roles and remotely take a stand on what's acceptable and not. Otherwise, don't complain when a hoochie is in line at Rite Aid and your kids are asking why is she wearing a thong in the winter @ the drug store.
to the undiscerning, young adult eye, more of the former than the latter.
this morning, dropping my son off at his jr high, a baby girl had on shorts shorter thna the ones B has on in this photo, a crop top, and some boots. very video-esque.
all the while slumped over like she wanted to crawl in a hole and die.
very sad.
Jasai,
How would you have like to see that young girl dressed?
Would you support school uniforms or standards that would not allow girls to show their navels, required them to wear skirts to the knee, and ruled out makeup, would you support it?
I ask because I marvel at the liberals who condemn every attempt by conservatives to enforce specific standards of morality - but are quick to take the low road by implying girls would be dressed appropriately - were it not for rap videos.
I would support school uniforms as well as slapping the hell out of that girl, her father, her mother and/or whoever else was around when she walked out of the house wearing boots and short pants!
I hear you Robyn,
I contend that the influence of the Gloria Steinem's on that girls mother, teachers and programmers of the TV she watches had far more to do with her ass being out than Ludacriss.
I say we slap the femiNazis and social engineers who continue to preach that Skip Sievert illusion which suggests "liberation" for women equals no moral guidance.
We should.
Young girls are even different today than when I was a teen and pre-teen.
I remember when the style switched from oversized clothes to short shorts and dresses. My first pair of short shorts wasnt a big deal for my parents, they were a big deal for me. We were all so exposed all of a sudden.
Unlike many of these little girls who seem to enjoy and seek the sexual attention of men and boys, I remember feeling a little wierd about it.
I recall wearing a bikini at 14 or so at a family BBQ by the pool at one of my best friends' houses. Her family members (who were a little wild and crazy) were there. And many of the males were quite appreciative of my bikini. I didnt see the "approval" in all of the commentary, it made me uncomfortable and I felt the need to cover up. Many of these fast ass girls today would flock to that stuff.
I remember that bikini day distinctly becuase my feelings were so different than what these girls seem to feel.
Unlike many of these little girls who seem to enjoy and seek the sexual attention of men and boys, I remember feeling a little weird about it.
- Robyn
You may have been one of the few then. I am a few years older than you and I recall vividly - from observation and experience - girls being barely dressed going to school or changing into the barely dressed outfit after arriving. Church girls. Girls whose mamas would kill them or whose step daddies would snatch them up, or whose preacher daddies would hang them by their toenails.
But the truth is, peer pressure and the impulse to be liked/loved/attended to is as overwhelming as anything, and popular culture and the overexposure to it (all forms of it) - at home/school and beyond - is so pervasive that these girls will see and be influenced by it. Period.
And because there are so many inner conflicts about how it makes them feel vs. how they think they should appear vs. what their mamas and daddies tell them to do it is precarious terrain and many times what popular wins. Even against strong personal emotion. Let’s not forget, these are still children.
Many of these fast ass girls today would flock to that stuff.
I remember that bikini day distinctly becuase my feelings were so different than what these girls seem to feel.
-robyn
I would say being desperate for attention comes in many disguises. it does not always manifest in the ways being discussed on this particular post.
"make no judgements where you have no compassion"
How would you have like to see that young girl dressed?
- DV
in a way the refelcts her inner beauty and inherent value. which so many young girls have a difficult time recognizing.
good posts Jasai. i dont think we disagree.
"in a way the refelcts her inner beauty and inherent value. which so many young girls have a difficult time recognizing. "
Me too.
Describe the outfit you would have preferred to see worn by the young lady you saw this morning.
I'm curious.
Because I'm about to be shopping for veils for my daughter.
She's going to be in school looking like a Quaker the way things are going these days.
you can buy what you like. inner security and inner surety is what will keep her in it after you pull off.
i would have liked to see her in anything that she would wear were her heart not so lonely.
Come on Jasai. Give me a real world example.
Skirt to the knee, or is mid thigh OK? Jeans? Wife-beater? Open toe shoes? Heels? Can she wear sweat pants that say "JUICY" on the ass?
What do you open-minded women envision as the ideal outfit for a 4th grade girl?
Or did the Catholic school systems have it right years ago with the white blouse and pleated skirts?
a 4th grade girl wears a t-shirt with some cute saying on it, some pink (or whatever color) sweats with nothing on the ass. Underneath those sweats she's wearing FULL underwear with some stars on them or something. They are pink or blue or green. They are NOT black, red or hot pink!!
She can have whatever the cool shoes are (jordans, converse or those with the wheels on them).
She can have her ears pierced and maybe she can have a necklace.
Her hair is in a ponytail or braid. It is not down. When all of this is in place, she is allowed to leave the house.
I can't speak personally on uniforms because I went to public schools, but my girls who went to Catholic schools that required them all have positive memories of wearing uniforms. That there wasn't the pressure to be the height of fashion each day. I remember the stress of buying new clothes at the beginning of each new school year and it sucked.
Jasai, you are on a roll today!
Oh, and if she happens to have on something other than pants or shorts, she has on shorts underneath.
If she's growing nubs, she has on a t-shirt underneath her shirt.
Robyn.
You going to be a good momma.
Kids love rules.
Insurgent,
You right.
Uniforms make the most sense for everybody.
It's actually remarkable that is not the standard.
The problem with them "cool shoes" is they become a distraction and eventually a drug. (I'm fiendin' for a new pair Ferragamo's now)
I sent my boys to school for the first day last week. Other kids looked like skateboarders. My boys were in Brooks brothers khakis shirts and ties.
They were nervous at first. But I told them to practice being different and if somebody says something to you kick their ass.
They laughed, went to school and rocked it.
Daring to be different is a good lesson DV. I have a younger brother. I remember my friends and I telling him when he got junior high (we were in HS) to suddenly one day start hanging at a new bench at school and watch how everyone would move with him. He did it and was throughly impressed with himself and the advice.
Re: uniforms, I agree that kids will always find something to compare. When I was in private school, we compared shoes and the shorts we wore under our uniform. The cool shorts had buttons that snapped on the side. Yall got me reminiscing!
Or did the Catholic school systems have it right years ago with the white blouse and pleated skirts?
-DV
I had that on today at work so believe I am not mad at that line-up.
in fourth grade there are so many acceptable things a little girl can wear to school it can make you dizzy and broke. my daughter's skirts - like mine - always come past her knees and she LOVES it. her shirts all hit her hips so that when she throws her hands up, her belly stays hidden. Socks and shoes unless it’s too hot.
It ain’t rocket science.
I will do uniforms and in fact impose a collared shirt rule on my son during school hours.
Quick, relevant, funny story:
This morning he asks me if he can wear this cool new t-shirt he just got. I pause, say no (because you know we don’t wear t-shirts to school) but acquiesce that he can wear it on Friday if all goes well.
I forget his lunch money and have to bring it to the school.
They call him because you have to hand it to your own child.
He lights up when he sees me (because he loves me like that)
I smile. And then I stop smiling.
He has on that damn t-shirt EVEN THOUGH HE ASKED ME and I said no.
So guess what, it’s game time. I asked him to please step aside so that I could talk to him. You know what I said. I said it softly and left the building. He is so confused that I have not “punished” him yet. But wait; as soon as he wants to do “that thing” that thing all the other kids are doing…he won’t. And he will think three times about trying to get around the house rules again.
Ahhhhhh Jasai ...
Nah. Let my boy slide on this one.
Damn. Who knew moms be running all up in the spot?
I remember gettin' busted.
oh there will be no sliding. not even slightly.
Jasai, good story.
Thats when my mom would have summarily informed me that "I dont know where she may turn up and that she will ALWAYS find out if I did something she told me not to."
She said that so much, it now plays like music.
Oh, and DV, I have no question that Jasai will make clear that her son is not being punished because of the t-shirt per se, but because he did something she told him not to.
Not only that Robyn, but it's something that he KNOWS is against the rules. And he knows WHY it is important to dress appropriately in school.
his little friend came up to me last night at football practice all coy and said, "is caleb in trouble?"
"why would he be in trouble?"
"for not having on his collar shirt?"
"then you know he's in trouble. yes."
"but Miss jasai, every kid wears t-shirts to school."
"not caleb. i'm not every kid's mama and so i'm not necessarily concerned about them."
[silence]
then, "oh, okay."
and when i vist their home, i observe that he has more respect for me than his own mother (bless her heart)
Jasai, my brother and I went to school in a similar "environment" as your children (i think).
I can tell a million stories about the "other" kids coming to our house, spending the night and turning into manerable children who follow instructions, eat food (BTW, why dont white kids ever want to eat?? but anyway) and generally act like they have some sense.
The funniest occasion was when my brother's friend Jeremy was over. They were in 4th grade or so. Jeremy's mama dropped him off with a speech about how she had spoken to him about his behavior and how she hoped he didnt give my parents any problems and that she would pick him up if "they couldnt handle him" (yeah, ok), and how they didnt have to feel pressured to make him eat because he was very picky, blah, blah, blah.
When that lady returned to retrieve her son, he ran from our kitchen table where he had been eating curry tofu, rice and peas and veggies (my dad was/is both a ratafarian and ahead of his time), and hid under my parents bed from where he proclaimed that he wanted to live with us. That kid wouldnt come out until my dad, physically removed him and promised that he could come and visit any time he wanted.
Hilarious! So I feel you about those kids and their parents.
it is somethng to experience. I try to shake myhead only when they aren't looking.
I had one of caleb's little friends eating baked chicken, sauteed spinach and baked red potatoes after he swore he only ate burgers and fries.
they are really just looking for some parenting.
Damn Jasai,
You just made me hungry. Wife got me on that woman's cleanse.
Love me some red potatos.
I dunno ... but I'm all for it as long as I can turn down the sound ... :)
Funny dude.
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