Pink said...
DV, I need relationship advice!!! I have the biggest crush on my bff's employer. I met him recently at a work related event that they had and I just really like the way that he carries himself. He has a smooth, older, sexiness to him. But he recently got out of a relationship and I know he's hurt from that.After I met him that night he invited us to a party at his house and last night we went out for a drink but it's ALWAYS as a group and so I have no idea if he's just being polite but I'm trying to just be friendly and let him be the aggressor if he's interested but it doesn't help that he's 50 and even though I'm 33 I look young so I don't know if he even sees me as dateable. I do know the ex was 40 though. They broke up about a month ago. Do you think that's too soon? And I don't know how to let men be the aggressor so I need help!
Denmark Vesey said ...
Pinnnnnnnnk.Aight. OK. OK.
Let's work this out.
1) DV don't give "relationship" advice.
I give marriage advice.
"Relationships" are for Plantation Negros. "Dating" is played out. They, are by definition, temporary.
2) Big Crush? lol. That's cute. Crushes are nice. But also temporary.
If this cat is as smooth, older and sexy as you suggest, I would anticipate he would be moved more by a woman, than a girl. At 33 you are a grown woman. Which is an asset. Men need women. Your attitude should be that this cat needs you. Let him know you have what he needs. Figure out a way to communicate to him that you are looking for a husband and a father of your children and that you are considering him as a possible candidate. Let him know that you are not interested in anything less.
He will either be turned on by your common sense and candor or he will be turned off by it. If he is turned off by it, later for him. He is a de facto homo who doesn't really want a woman anyway.
All that "confident"/ "arrogant" talk is just talk. That's the shit men and women say to themselves and to each other when they are not bonded with a woman or with a man.
All women act "confident" when you first hook up. Many brothers project "arrogance" to divert attention from the fact that they really just need to Get A Chick.
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Wow!!! I was just about to ask you to put this up cuz I wanted to check back with Pink on this and get all up in her biz. lol.
Nahh I just think it'd be great to see a hook up on dv.net.
So speak up Pink!
Also, I love how you negroes had so much to say about the Ines Sainz (however the hell you spell it) post and nothing inspiring to add to the recent Get A Chick/Married post.
tsk, tsk, tsk.
Hey O! Missed you guys! As for the update, I'm over that whole situation because someone said that I look exactly like his daughter and I realized that that's probably why he was always so nice to me. I'm pretty sure he's an old school player lol. But I started seeing this guy who is all about marriage and children. From our first date he was like "just so you know, I have no interest in just dating. I'm only looking for something long term and if that's not what you're looking for let me know". Of course I immediately thought about DV's advice! I was REALLY taken aback but that's because most men don't mention marriage and act like it's a four letter word. But he's already introduced me to his friends, wants me to come home with him for thanksgiving (I chickened out on that one so he surprised me with plane tix to boston to see my own family) and he's told his family about me.
In other news... I'm now TOTALLY natural! I have a black power afro lol. Cut all the perm out last week.
Ok that was a mouthful. What's new with everyone else???
'Go 'head Pink!
That's what I'm talking about.
(But next time, go see his family. It will get you started on the right foot)
Also, I love how you negroes had so much to say about the Ines Sainz (however the hell you spell it) post and nothing inspiring to add to the recent Get A Chick/Married post.
Ha!
Damn DV, you don't give relationship advice but you give marriage advice. Okay, Do you have any suggestions how a beautiful woman living in a small WI town (50 min from Minneapolis) with very little free time can meet a husband. Just the thought of it seems far fetched. I see like 5 black people a week LOL.
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