I am the wife to a wonderful man named Will, and Mom to 5 amazing kids. Both Will and I were widowed before we met. We had 3 children between us when we married. We welcomed a new addition 1 1/2 years later. The pregnancy and birth were wild, so we decided to be "done". God had a different plan. We were introduced to international adoption, and started that process 11/04. We brought our 5th child home from Ethiopia 4/06. You could say our kids are Your's, Mine, Our's and Someone Else's. 8^) We are just grateful that they are all OUR'S! Someday, we will adopt from Ethiopia again. We know there is an "older child" that is meant to be part of our family. We trust that God will let us know when the time is right. Parenting is the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever taken on. I am not an expert, but I'm happy to share any insights I gain along the way. I also appreciate any tips I can glean from my readers. After all, it takes a village, right?!
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Huh?
Ok. Definitely a good story. Admirable people. Supremacy is an entirely different issue.
My wife and I are looking into adopting a Swedish baby.
You trying to bait me. I aint gonna bite.
Why don't you DV, Though I'm not sure why you want a Swedish baby.... if you have adopt, why not one of the many American babies that need a good home!
I know you are trying to make a point with your post... I'm just not sure what that point is.
Hey Sista Accra.
Nah. Both you and Robyn know me well enough to realize I'm joking to underscore a point.
However, why does the suggestion that a black family would adopt a white baby, seem immediately absurd? (It does to me as well btw)
I suspect that "adopting" a child, outside one's own tribe, is the ultimate act of tribal supremacy and empowerment.
(To do it, implies one can afford to do it)
Since the collective global imagination seems resistant to the suggestion that blacks too can express supremacy, or to actually be empowered, I may have to fall on the sword, so to speak, and adopt a little European baby to demonstrates that black people are not simply consumers of altruism .
If Brad and Angelina can do it why not Mr. & Mrs. Vesey?
Power is 90% perception anyway. Think now many perceived power points could be gained if blacks just started adopting white kids.
I'm pondering this statement....
"I suspect that "adopting" a child, outside one's own tribe, is the ultimate act of tribal supremacy and empowerment."
At first I wasnt sure that I agreed with this, given what the statement suggests in this current context . The notion of Angelina and Brad being anything more than two people with a lot of money is hard for me to grasp. But then I started thinking about how WE have been taking care of other folks children for years. Be it as mammies, maids, foster mothers or relatives of incapable parents.
So okay. I can agree with the statement. Funny thing is, I didnt walk away with any new view of while folks, all I saw was yet another demonstration of how we, fundamentally, as a people, are on point.
Good point Robyn,
But keep this in mind. Brad and Angelina are two people who adopted 1 child.
The act was witnessed via the media by two billion people.
The act vs. The event.
Extrapolate the visual impact of Angelina Jolie, face hidden by sunglasses, swooping in to rescue 1 small African baby and stealing him away to the land of white celebrity wealth.
Unlike the GSWS fanatics, I don't see whites as having any monopoly on the creation of these digital memes.
Quite the contrary.
I think Lebron should adopt a little blonde white boy from a trailer park and raising him in his Cleveland mansion.
Imagine that image plastered all over ESPN.
Young black kids would be on some "Global System of White Supermacy" my ass!
I get your point in the abstract. In reality however, I would hate for you and the Mrs, Lebron, or whomever, to miss a chance to help a black baby behind trying to create the desired media image.
DV...
"Power is 90% perception anyway."
Sure.
At the end of the day, DV, power is the ability to shoot someone in the head and can't nobody do anything about it.
There is not an African person on the planet who qualifies.
"At the end of the day, DV, power is the ability to shoot someone in the head and can't nobody do anything about it.
There is not an African person on the planet who qualifies." Michael Fisher
Ummm ... interesting perspective Brother Fisher.
But there are plenty of dead white people who would disagree with you.
"But there are plenty of dead white people who would disagree with you."
There is a difference between not doing something about something because one chooses to, and not having the ability to do something about something.
Of course, I guess I need to clarify. When I say "can't nobody do anything about it" I mean that there are no consequences to be feared by the shooter from anyone, because there is someone more powerful than the shooter.
There is no African person like that on the planet. If you know one, name one.
Name a white one.
That will give me a better understanding of your context.
Michael,
Someone can always do something about injustice. I don't believe it is a person on this planet that can't be got or cannot be brought to justice.
To me, power is not the ability to kill, but the ability to enlighten people to see things your way without coercion.
DV...
"Name a white one."
Dick Cheney
Mike are you suggesting Dick Cheney could shoot ... Condoleeza Rice or Colin Powell in the head ... and walk away without fear of consequences?
I don't think you are.
Please clarify.
I'm very interested in better understanding this prodigious power you ascribe to some white people.
DV...
"Mike are you suggesting Dick Cheney could shoot ... Condoleeza Rice or Colin Powell in the head ... and walk away without fear of consequences?"
Sure. And most certainly (which is the real crux of the matter) he would have to fear no consequence from any African. And that includes any African from America.
Now, I asked you a question. Name an African.
OK Fish ...
Ummmm ... well under the scenario you described with Cheney, I'd say Robert Mugabe could pop a white farmer and get away with it.
Michael Fisher...
"I mean that there are no consequences to be feared by the shooter from anyone, because there is someone more powerful than the shooter."
DV...
Ummmm ... well under the scenario you described with Cheney, I'd say Robert Mugabe could pop a white farmer and get away with it.
There's no one more powerful than Robert Mugabe?
DV, as much as I agree with Mugabe's land for Africans policy (even though I dislike Mugabe for his role in the killing of Herbert Chitepo and his sell-out
of the African people in the Lancaster House Agreement), Mugabe can do what he does because the US and the UK choose not to take him out militarily.
Nope. I don't think Mugabe qualifies. Got another one?
Well somebody has to take care of all these orphans. American orphanages are filled with black babies and ain't none of us adopting them. Until you are ready to do it yourself, don't criticize Angelina for stepping up and forming a lifelong bond with children from Africa. I don't see how middle-aged blacks that haven't even been to Africa can criticize a white person for adopting an African kid.
"American orphanages are filled with black babies and ain't none of us adopting them."
Why did they get filled up and why don't we adopt them?
"Why did they get filled up and why don't we adopt them?"
They got filled up for various reasons, most of them probably drug related. We don't adopt them because we don't care.
"Why did they get filled up and why don't we adopt them?"
They got filled up for various reasons, most of them probably drug related. We don't adopt them because we don't care.
Big J...
"They got filled up for various reasons, most of them probably drug related."
Why do so many black people take drugs?
Who makes those drugs available to black people?
Big J...
We don't adopt them because we don't care.
Big J, you don't care about these children? I don't believe that.
There must be another reason why you don't adopt a whole bunch of them.
Michael Fisher said...
"Who makes those drugs available to black people?"
... black people.
Michael Fisher ...
"Nope. I don't think Mugabe qualifies. Got another one?"
Let me see if I understand correctly Mike.
You think Dick Cheney can shoot Colin Powell in the head, and get a way with it, because he is white.
But Mugabe couldn't kill a white farmer, because the United States would retaliate against an African harming a white person.
I think you are over-valuing whiteness.
DV...
"You think Dick Cheney can shoot Colin Powell in the head, and get a way with it, because he is white."
Nope. I'm saying he can do that because he is part of a power structure that classifies itself as "white". "White" is relative. Saddam used to think he was "white", too, until more powerful whites turned him into a Sandnigger colored boy and, in good 'ole white boy fashion, had his ass lynched.
You done said so yourself. "White" is a behavior
In any case, you got an African who qualifies or not, Mr. Black Supremacy?
DV...
"'Who makes those drugs available to black people?'
... black people."
And who makes those drugs available to the black people who make them available to the black drug users?
"And who makes those drugs available to the black people who make them available to the black drug users?" Michael Fisher
The black people who sniff it up their noses, shoot in their veins, swallow it and smoke it ... make the drugs available.
Just as white drug addicts who drug themselves make the "drug" available to themselves.
DEMAND = AVAILABILITY
Michael ... I don't know what happened to your generation that makes you think black people are just passive victims of white determination.
DV...
"...that makes you think black people are just passive victims of white determination."
Now where did I ever state that black folks are passive victims?
"DEMAND = AVAILABILITY"
DV, don't be facetious. Demand does not equal availability. If demand equaled availability, there would be not any demand in the first place.
Unless of course, you sincerely persist in this logical fallacy. In that case you'd be living proof that the demand (for human intelligence) is not always fulfilled just 'cause the demand (for human intelligence) exists.
In any case, that's not what I asked. I asked:
"who makes those drugs available to the black people who make them available to the black drug users?"
Now also remember to answer this question:
"In any case, you got an African who qualifies or not, Mr. Black Supremacy?"
No answer...
Thought so.
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