She is not hot, but I respect Usher for marrying her. He is setting a positive example. I had heard him in the past say that he "never wanted to get married."
She's not hot, and personally I would never wanna see my mother posing like this. This woman has 3 young children... hence what appears to be c-section scar down her belly...or is that just fat? Either way, it's not tasteful.
I guess people are just used to seeing women who are all totally and fully enhanced by plastic surgery as well as air brushed to the last hair on the head................. what's this obsession with so called perfection ?
Folks, this is what most real women look like...... what is so bad about the way she looks? The stretch marks on her belly are her battle scars from delivering tthree precious children into this world.......
I agree with you wholeheartedly Anonymous, as I certainly look more the Tamika Foster than Stacy Dash down below.
However, what I question is why Tamika felt the need to do this? She looks nice in the picture with Usher and in the prior posted pics from the party. Why succumb to the need to be more like white, young Hollywood?
I would pose this question whether Tamika was a size 4 or 14. But again, I agree that the American Beauty standard is a bunch of non-sense!
I gotta give it to you. You ask some poignant questions.
But, let us work from the deal backwards.
Whatever Tamika is doing - it's working.
She is about to marry a man a million black women, 2 million white women, and a whole lotta Asian women would sell an organ to marry.
Method. Madness?
As other +30 black women write dissertations on what is wrong with black men, suggest 40% are gay in books like The Down Low, quote the incarceration rate of black males etween 25 and 32, and debate how much stomach to show in photographs - Tamika is about to marry a 25 year old black millionaire.
She aint a complete fool.
She knows something a whole lot of smart modest women don't know.
apparently THIS is the baby's father (guy in the glasses. husband is said chickie. or ex-husband....hmm) but his money ain't long enough so your man usher is up to bat.
Usher is obviously good with Tamika, as Tamika is. Last I checked she was a damn near 40 year old mom, whom Usher wanted to marry. The pre-photo Tamika was obviously working for Usher so why all of a sudden does she wanna flip the script?
DV, you have got a point... Shoot I am real extra curious what is in this woman's playbook...because she apparently had all of the right moves...a 25 year old millionare and she already has 3 kids, was married when he met her, and has a body like that?
Sign me up for her workshop!!
I guess it is like my boy Katt Williams said....it is 'about esteem of your mutha F#$&ing self!!'
Jasai, I am making that comment not to say that Usher is the epitome of man...(He may or may not be)...and I beg to differ with you saying that she has not won anything...she has obviously won the heart and loyalty of a man who obviously adores her. To me, considering that this man is a multiplatinum, megastar, multi-millionaire, I would consider that no small feat given her circumstances.
I know he has dated more beautiful women, younger women, more financially 'successful' women, slimmer women, women with no kids...but he chose her. There obviously is a lot more to this dynamic than meets the eye...
ummm...Jasai...again, you missed the point. I think you need to write THIS down...
Soteria: " and I beg to differ with you saying that she has not won anything...she has obviously won the heart and loyalty of a man who obviously adores her.
And in answer to your question yes she did win something...she won - HIS LOVE!! That is a prize whether it is Jerome who works at the gas station or Usher the entertainer.
I didn't say that his station in life made him a BETTER man than anyone else...but he DEFINITELY has WAY MORE OPTIONS than your average man...
Well...hate not in the traditional sense...but in the sense of taking joy at watching anothers downfall.
Jasai: she is officially lucky enough to get dumped. hours before the wedding. now she's just another single sista with four kids. write that down
I am a married, non-felon.
Are you somehow better than her because you are married and she is not? Now she is 'just another single sista with four kids'? Sounds to me like you are playing a little holier thn thou on this one...
soteria said... DV, you have got a point... Shoot I am real extra curious what is in this woman's playbook...because she apparently had all of the right moves...a 25 year old millionare and she already has 3 kids, was married when he met her, and has a body like that?
Sign me up for her workshop!!
I guess it is like my boy Katt Williams said....it is 'about esteem of your mutha F#$&ing self!!'
What misconception did you correct? My whole point was that many people put themselves down and say that because of this, or because of that their options are limited...my comment was that is not true...it is about you having confidence in yourself. People are naturally drawn toward confident people. I think most people would agree that they were an unlikely pair..do to age, her appearance, and past-divorcee with 3 kids. In this case apparently she was deceptive with her past - which is a whole other story.
DV...now why did you have to go there?
ReplyDeleteLOL. Nah, Soteria. I didn't tell ol' girl to take a photo in her draws, with her hands on her hips and her poom poom jumping all in the camera.
ReplyDeleteShe is not hot, but I respect Usher for marrying her. He is setting a positive example. I had heard him in the past say that he "never wanted to get married."
ReplyDeleteBig J
what kind of positive example is he setting.
ReplyDeletewill it still be set when they divorce in two years. or will he have satisfied his duty to the black community?
this is clearly a bad idea.
ick!
LOL. Jasai, talking about some "ick".
ReplyDeleteWhen is the last time you heard the word "ick"?
I don't know about this one Big J.
The last thing the institution of marriage needs is another public sham. Is there a point when it becomes mockery?
She's not hot, and personally I would never wanna see my mother posing like this. This woman has 3 young children... hence what appears to be c-section scar down her belly...or is that just fat? Either way, it's not tasteful.
ReplyDelete"hence what appears to be c-section scar down her belly..."
ReplyDelete-ericka
ick ick ick!!!!!!!!!!!!
i mean really now, come on.
ReplyDeletewhen do we just decide as women that there is no room/excuse/reason to behvae in this way.
okay, no, do it. but do NOT be mad when people start whispering or throwing cheese products when you come in a room.
ick!
Why?
ReplyDeletecheese products?! OMG, hilarious!
ReplyDeleteI guess people are just used to seeing women who are all totally and fully enhanced by plastic
ReplyDeletesurgery as well as air brushed to the last hair on the head................. what's this obsession with so called perfection ?
Folks, this is what most real women look like...... what is so bad about the way she looks? The stretch marks on her belly are her battle scars from delivering tthree precious children into this world.......
I agree with you wholeheartedly Anonymous, as I certainly look more the Tamika Foster than Stacy Dash down below.
ReplyDeleteHowever, what I question is why Tamika felt the need to do this? She looks nice in the picture with Usher and in the prior posted pics from the party. Why succumb to the need to be more like white, young Hollywood?
I would pose this question whether Tamika was a size 4 or 14. But again, I agree that the American Beauty standard is a bunch of non-sense!
Something is not correct concerning this relationship... It will surface one day.
ReplyDeleteRobyn,
ReplyDeleteI gotta give it to you. You ask some poignant questions.
But, let us work from the deal backwards.
Whatever Tamika is doing - it's working.
She is about to marry a man a million black women, 2 million white women, and a whole lotta Asian women would sell an organ to marry.
Method. Madness?
As other +30 black women write dissertations on what is wrong with black men, suggest 40% are gay in books like The Down Low, quote the incarceration rate of black males etween 25 and 32, and debate how much stomach to show in photographs - Tamika is about to marry a 25 year old black millionaire.
She aint a complete fool.
She knows something a whole lot of smart modest women don't know.
don't be too sure.
ReplyDeleteshe might just know a secret.
or how to detect an boy trying to piss his mama off.
"She knows something a whole lot of smart modest women don't know."
ReplyDeleteYea...that Usher has a oedipus complex
ha ha
http://www.ozonemag.com/gallery/main.php?g2_view=core.DownloadItem&g2_itemId=9249&g2_serialNumber=2
ReplyDeleteapparently THIS is the baby's father (guy in the glasses. husband is said chickie. or ex-husband....hmm) but his money ain't long enough so your man usher is up to bat.
DV, you make my point.
ReplyDeleteUsher is obviously good with Tamika, as Tamika is. Last I checked she was a damn near 40 year old mom, whom Usher wanted to marry. The pre-photo Tamika was obviously working for Usher so why all of a sudden does she wanna flip the script?
20 bucks says thats Mike Fisher in the pic next to Tamika's ex husband. LOL!
ReplyDeleteYall know he referred Tamika to Usher for the stylist position, right?!
LOL @ that being MF!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteyet....we may never know.
Ya'll aint right.
ReplyDeleteMike would not be caught dead next to a cat in a suit that cheap.
Whoever sold him those glasses should be arrested.
My man looks like a fly with a big nose rocking bling.
DV, you have got a point...
ReplyDeleteShoot I am real extra curious what is in this woman's playbook...because she apparently had all of the right moves...a 25 year old millionare and she already has 3 kids, was married when he met her, and has a body like that?
Sign me up for her workshop!!
I guess it is like my boy Katt Williams said....it is 'about esteem of your mutha F#$&ing self!!'
All ladies need to take note....
I guess it is like my boy Katt Williams said....it is 'about esteem of your mutha F#$&ing self!!'
ReplyDeletei'm standing as far from THAT class as possible. as if she has won anything.
ReplyDeleteanything at all.
as far as i can tell she is down one more.
"getting married" is an interesting state of grace. especially when you are already pregnant with no. 4.
nice.
Jasai,
ReplyDeleteI am making that comment not to say that Usher is the epitome of man...(He may or may not be)...and I beg to differ with you saying that she has not won anything...she has obviously won the heart and loyalty of a man who obviously adores her. To me, considering that this man is a multiplatinum, megastar, multi-millionaire, I would consider that no small feat given her circumstances.
I know he has dated more beautiful women, younger women, more financially 'successful' women, slimmer women, women with no kids...but he chose her. There obviously is a lot more to this dynamic than meets the eye...
because of this:
ReplyDelete"To me, considering that this man is a multiplatinum, megastar, multi-millionaire, I would consider that no small feat given her circumstances. "
you think she has won something?
this is why so many women find themselves in loveless marriages, hopeless lives and all manner of confused states.
no amount of money
no station
no public status
says anything worth noting when it comes to thinking about marrying and having children with a man.
write that down.
FYI....none of my comments on this issue have anything to do with how she looks.
ReplyDeleteummm...Jasai...again, you missed the point.
ReplyDeleteI think you need to write THIS down...
Soteria: " and I beg to differ with you saying that she has not won anything...she has obviously won the heart and loyalty of a man who obviously adores her.
And in answer to your question yes she did win something...she won - HIS LOVE!! That is a prize whether it is Jerome who works at the gas station or Usher the entertainer.
I didn't say that his station in life made him a BETTER man than anyone else...but he DEFINITELY has WAY MORE OPTIONS than your average man...
"To me, considering that this man is a multiplatinum, megastar, multi-millionaire, I would consider that no small feat given her circumstances."
ReplyDeletethat's what you said.
i am sure you have won the heart of a man or two that loved you too.
ReplyDeleteyou didn't get pregnant and have a baby by him without being married to him.
in the end it could be considered a kind of loss. of sorts.
Jasai,
ReplyDeleteI think you need to read what is said before you respond. That sentence was right before the one that you responded to...
I have won some men's hearts in my lifetime ...and it is a prize every time.
of course it was.
ReplyDeleteJ was right. 40% gossiping gay negras up in here.
ReplyDeleteAlso, somebody take Robyn's 20 bucks. I don told ya I'm 4' 6" and 400 + pounds. No teeth.
she is officially lucky enough to get dumped.
ReplyDeletehours before the wedding.
now she's just another single sista with four kids.
write that down
I heard he cancelled the wedding, but I didnt know it was hours before . Damn!
ReplyDeletejasai said...
ReplyDeletenow she's just another single sista with four kids.
What was she before he canceled the wedding?
Her family told him her real past.. It's all coming out now. I knew something wasn't correct about this situation.
ReplyDeleteJasai,
ReplyDeleteshe is officially lucky enough to get dumped.
hours before the wedding.
now she's just another single sista with four kids.
write that down
Soteria:
And why exactly should we be writing this down?
It sounds like she definitely had a very shady past that he apparently was not aware of - sounds like a sad situation...
last week she was lucky, or blessed or something....
ReplyDeleteDV said:
"What was she before he canceled the wedding? "
Exactly.
Jasai,
ReplyDeleteI think that you are what would be commonly referred to in hip hop venacular as a "hater"...
for real...
lol!
ReplyDeletewow.
the truth hates...
that's a new one.
i am a married, non-felon.
i harbor no hate against this poor girl.
Well...hate not in the traditional sense...but in the sense of taking joy at watching anothers downfall.
ReplyDeleteJasai:
she is officially lucky enough to get dumped.
hours before the wedding.
now she's just another single sista with four kids.
write that down
I am a married, non-felon.
Are you somehow better than her because you are married and she is not? Now she is 'just another single sista with four kids'? Sounds to me like you are playing a little holier thn thou on this one...
M
soteria said...
ReplyDeleteDV, you have got a point...
Shoot I am real extra curious what is in this woman's playbook...because she apparently had all of the right moves...a 25 year old millionare and she already has 3 kids, was married when he met her, and has a body like that?
Sign me up for her workshop!!
I guess it is like my boy Katt Williams said....it is 'about esteem of your mutha F#$&ing self!!'
All ladies need to take note....
- Soteria
Just trying corret this misconception.
I'm not sure where Jasai and Soteria lost one another. I'll go back.
ReplyDeleteOn another note, Jasai, Tamika Foster could be your older sister or cousin! Especially in that new top photo.
I'm tellin' you, there are look alikes around every corner....
ReplyDeleteWhat misconception did you correct? My whole point was that many people put themselves down and say that because of this, or because of that their options are limited...my comment was that is not true...it is about you having confidence in yourself. People are naturally drawn toward confident people. I think most people would agree that they were an unlikely pair..do to age, her appearance, and past-divorcee with 3 kids. In this case apparently she was deceptive with her past - which is a whole other story.
ReplyDeleteduly noted.
ReplyDelete